Using Emotional intelligence to progress towards your goals Part 2

triad emotions and self talk

Part 2 of Emotional Intelligence, read Part 1 first!

The ability to manage emotions effectively is a key part of emotional intelligence. Regulating emotions, responding appropriately and responding to the emotions of others are all important aspect of emotional management.

Emotional power helps us to:

  • Building Quality in our Relationships
  • ‘Tune in’ internally
  • Understanding ‘missing gaps’
  • Taking Action!

Habits of Emotionally intelligent people

People with High EI:-

  •  Label their feelings, rather than labelling other people or situations
  •  Distinguish between thoughts and feelings
  •  Take responsibility  for their feelings
  •  Use their emotions to make decisions
  •  Show respect for other’s feelings
  •  Feel energised , not angry
  •  Practise getting a positive value from their negative emotions
  •  Don’t advise, command, control, criticise, blame or judge others
  •  Avoid people who invalidate them or don’t respect their feelings


Personal: How people manage themselves through motivation, internal states, intuition and impulse.


  • Power of thought
  • Strong Inner desire of success
  • Energy and Emotional Drive
  • Harmony of Mind, Body, Relationships and Events
  • Values into Actions!
  • Vision into Realities!
  • Obstacles into Innovation!

Be aware of self-talk – Destructive or Positive?

What do my emotions mean?

How do I manage my emotions?

How can I handle situations in the best possible way?

How can I deal with conflict in an emotionally intelligent way?

How can I get what I want and satisfy others?

What motivates people?

GROW YOUR OWN HAPPINESS! Happiness  can be achieved by training the mind, remember happy people live longer and fully embrace life, get the learning in the body now and become emotionally aware!


Social: How people manage relationships through communication.

  • Model the way
  • Inspire a Shared vision
  • Challenge the process
  • Enable others to act
  • Encourage the Heart

“the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions” Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer


  • Inspire
  • Awaken passion and enthusiasm
  • Keep people motivated and committed
  • Compassion
  • Flexibility
  • Honesty

“The communication between your emotional and rational “brains” is the physical source of emotional intelligence. Using strategies to increase your emotional intelligence allows the billions of microscopic neurons lining the road between the rational and emotional centres of your brain to branch off small “arms” (much like a tree) to reach out to the other cells. A single cell can grow 15,000 connections with its neighbours. This chain reaction of growth ensures it’s easier to kick this new behaviour into action in the future. Once you train your brain by repeatedly using new emotional intelligence strategies, emotionally intelligent behaviours become habits.”

Part 3 we will look at the questions you can ask yourself to improve your emotional intelligence.

Please help me in 2013 and answer the following question in the comments below, I will be collecting your answers!
What phrases do you use to make people feel more comfortable, motivated, and appreciated?

One thought on “Using Emotional intelligence to progress towards your goals Part 2

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