Use the September equinox to give thanks and revitalise!

We have just passed the September Equinox (22nd of September 2013), has it had any effect on you? It could be the perfect time for asky cathartic clear out! It many different cultures around the world there are many festivals and celebrations around the Autumn (September) equinox. In the UK traditional harvest festivals take place around the end of September; it is a time to give thanks for the crops that have been grown and also to celebrate the end of the hard work involved in reaping them!

So as we approach the last 3 months of the year, take some time this week to review the year so far, give thanks for the blessings you have received, review what you still want to achieve, list them jobs you want to get finished and review the goals I know you all set in January!

Great questions to ask yourself if you want to get the best from your life!

Q. What is making my life a masterpiece?

Q. What do I need to ‘let go of’ that does not serve me?

Q. What decision could you make right now to move you closer to your goal?

Q. Am I willing to accept the consequences of not changing?

Q. Who am I working with to help me get to where I want to be in my life?

Q. What are you grateful for in your life right now?

Q. Have I made certain that those I love feel loved?

Q. Have I collected some wonderful memories?

Q. Have I felt grateful for the incredible gift of being alive?

Q.What am I enjoying most in my life right now?

Q. What am I committed to in my life right now?



The questions you ask yourself on a daily basis determine your focus, and your focus determines your results!

  • See your goal
  • Understand the obstacles
  • Create a positive mental picture
  • Clear your mind of self-doubt
  • Embrace the challenge
  • Stay on track
  • Show the world you can do it


Instead of making a living, start creating a life.

Brilliant Results don’t just show up by chance. The finest things in life take patience, focus and sacrifice” – Robin Sharma






How to build morale in your team?

There are many factors that can affect the morale of a team, if you are in a leadership position it’s vital that you recognise the level of morale. As a leader if you want a team to perform it’s your responsibility to inspire and lead your team to create a productive environment.

According to sociologist Alexander Leighton, “morale is the capacity of a group of people to pull together persistently and consistently in pursuit of a common purpose.” – See more

You might not be able to measure morale as such but teams with high morale have low turnover of staff, low sickness rates, high productivity, high levels of staff engagement, all of which can be measured.  These will directly affect the profitability of your business so I urge you to pay attention to team morale!

Happy team

Ways to boost morale

  1. The first step begins with you as the leader. You have to inspire your team if you have the attitude that employees are easy to replace or people should be grateful for their position you will not recognise the signs of low morale. You must recognise the value of your employees!
  2. Mix it up! Being stuck in the same routine day after day gets boring for you and your team. Find ways to change the day-to-day grind. If you always have a meeting in a boardroom, go out for lunch instead. Find ways to make life more pleasant in general for employees, could you offer flexible schedules, work from home schedules, gym memberships etc ?
  3. Understand that the work environment can greatly affect employee morale. Ask your employees what they would like to improve and make it happen
  4. Recognise the special events in employee’s lives. Birthdays, weddings, births, the accomplishments of employee children—if you have a reason to celebrate, do it!
  5. Open, 2 way communication is a must. Communication is often one of the biggest challenges in business, you must encourage the lines of communication between management and the team. Employees what to feel important and have their ideas and opinions listened to, likewise the want to be trusted with important company data and business decisions. Most employees in the workforce want to work for a company they can trust and believe in!
  6. Invite in local experts. Find out what interests your employees have outside of the work environment and perhaps once a month invite in an expert to give an hours talk or class. Provide lunch and refreshments, make it fun! It could be a Zumba class, a gardening hour, personal trainer, massage therapist, whatever the subject it gives a break from the routine.
  7. Train employees to develop positive attitudes. Mindset makes the difference in business, one negative mindset can affect the moral of the whole team. Invest in your team with training days, workshops, coaching, whatever is suitable for your business.  Understanding each others different perspectives will go along way in boosting morale and reducing conflict. To truly  reach the top your team needs to shed its limiting beliefs and embrace opportunities to shine.
  8. Saving the best till last, above all HAVE FUN! You don’t have to dress in a clown’s costume, but you can promote a feeling of happiness and satisfaction in the workplace. Go out and talk to your employees. Smile. Recognize what they do, for without them, you wouldn’t have a business to start with.

What’s worse than training your workers and losing them? Not training them and keeping them.”

—Zig Ziglar


Visit my website for more information; get the right mindset and lead the transformation!

Can stress be good for you? How you can make it your friend.

I watched a fascinating talk by health psychologist Kelly McGonigal; she shares a fascinating idea: that the harmful effects of stress may be a consequence of our perception that it is bad for our health. Agreeing with my earlier article on stress that “That’s not to say a challenge is a bad thing, we need to progress and grow, we do this by dealing with stressful situations and coming out the other side. However, what may be stressful to one person may minimally affect another–and vice versa. The reason: it is not the event which is stressful, but how we view and respond to the event that counts. “

Kelly McGonigal presents scientific research in her presentation that proves an up side to stress:

“Can changing how you think about stress make you healthier? Here the science says yes,” says McGonigal. “Your heart might be pounding, you may be breathing faster… but what if you viewed them as signs that your body was energized and it’s preparing you to meet this challenge.”

The main points from the scientific research mentioned in the video are:

  • Stress may actually be correlated with longevity—if a person does not view it as a negative
  • A possible antidote to negative effects of stress: giving to others
  • Moderate stress can lead to cell growth in the brain’s learning centers
  • Stress can summon helper hormones to vulnerable areas
  • Stress can induce both good and bad habits
  • A stress-is-enhancing mindset may have lasting effects

How to deal with stress in a positive way

1. Nothing and no one can “make” you feel anything. You are responsible for the reaction you have to any given situation, of you can’t change anything, accept it for what it is. Accepting doesn’t mean to give up, by accepting what can’t be changed and finding a way to cop with it is a great stress reducer.

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

2. Exchange attitude for gratitude. The science indicates above that as possible antidote to stress is giving to others, that makes us feel good about ourselves. Sometimes you can find gratitude in the smallest things. You can be thankful for life, health, strength, friends, family, nature, etc. Focusing on gratitude can definitely change your attitude.

3. Look at the big picture. Evaluate your stressful situation from a “big picture” point of view. Ask yourself “how important is this?” and “will this matter in the long run?” If the answer is no, it’s likely not worth your time and energy.

How good are you at building rapport ?

Rapport skills enable you to put others at ease and create trust.

Mastery of rapport skills allow you to get on with anyone, anywhere, greatly increases your confidence and effectiveness and makes it easier for others to communicate with you.

Mastering the skill of building rapport requires sensory acuity and behavioral flexibility on your behalf.

These are the only two limits to your ability to produce results in this area:

  • The degree to which you can perceive other’s postures, gestures and speech patterns and
  • The elegance with which you can match them in the dance of rapport.


The building blocks of matching are:

Body language

  • Posture
  • Weight distribution
  • Gestures – arms & hands, legs and feet.
  • Facial expressions
  • Eye Contact
  • Breathing rate

Voice Quality

  • Volume
  • Tone
  • Pitch
  • Temp
  • Sounds


Changes the other person’s behavior by getting them to follow your lead (e.g. leading them from slumping, into a more upright posture, or leading them from speaking quietly to speaking more loudly). This is the one test that you do have rapport.

Having rapport and being able to lead others, makes it easier to achieve mutually desired outcomes, such as reaching agreement. It also allows you to take responsibility for the outcome of all interactions. It is however, a choice.

There may be some people with whom you would choose not to be in rapport with. We call this mismatching.



Allows you to break rapport, to interrupt or to avoid communication. To mismatch, simply alter your body and/or voice to make them different from the other person’s. This will subtly and unconsciously interrupt the flow of communication giving you the chance to re-direct the interaction. (NB- if rapport is well established, you may find the other person follows your behavior as you mismatch- so in effect – you are leading them!- if this happens you’ll have to keep changing your behavior until they cease to follow you!)


General Points about Rapport

  • The dance of rapport is what we do naturally
  • It allows you to join the other person in their model of the world
  • Rapport needs flexibility of thought and behavior
  • Notice what happens when people get on well- they tend to match
  • Notice the opposite, when people are in disagreement they mismatch
  • Notice when you are not getting on well with someone and try matching
  • Make it easy for others to communicate with you by practicing rapport
  • Liking the other person is not a prerequisite for rapport


If you look up the word ‘ rapport ‘ in the dictionary, it means the presence of harmony, trust and cooperation in a relationship. It is an important skill to master not only in business but all relationships in your life!