How do great leaders inspire us?

We recently said goodbye to one of the 20th century’s great leaders, Nelson Mandala passed away on the 5th December, 2013.  His passing marks the end of an era, South Africans will remember him as the father of the nation, who brought an end to apartheid and delivered the nation from the brink of civil war. He won admiration around the world when he preached reconciliation after being freed from almost three decades of imprisonment. He leaves behind an extraordinary legacy of reconciliation and forgiveness which has inspired so many people and will continue to do so.

How do leaders inspire us?

When looking at developing your leadership skills we can learn so much from great leaders. This Mandala quote sums up how I choose to truly live my life:

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Which great leaders have inspired you and what are their qualities? Great leaders have the ability to inspire people to greatness, to help them achieve the impossible. Leaders have passion and vision and are able to communicate that passion and vision so others can feel passionate, too. It’s important to inspire others with words and actions, teach others by example. If you do it, they will follow.

Mandala was put in jail by a brutal regime for 27 years simply because he was fighting for fairness and equality. On his release instead of looking for revenge he became a stronger leader, never becoming bitter. He found common ground, embracing those who were once against him and helping the country bridge a seemingly impossible gap.

If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner.

Find willing people to work with. Most of us have gotten caught up at least once in the emotional roller-coaster that is wanting to work with or help someone who has the talent, the potential or the need, even if that person is unwilling or incapable. Move on from those that don’t want to do or be where you want them to do or be. And don’t carry their burden. Let them go through their journey and spend your time and energy looking for like-minded people who you can partner with.

It is better to lead from behind and to put others in front, especially when you celebrate victory when nice things occur. You take the front line when there is danger. Then people will appreciate your leadership.


Reading book list for 2014! Personal Development & Relationships: Books you must read!

It’s that time of year again with Christmas fast approaching that I like to put out a reading list to help and inspire you for 2014. Don’t be afraid to ask friends and family to buy them for you for Christmas, much more helpful than socks or toiletries!  

We all want to be happy and that’s why it’s so important  to develop and improve as a person, create your own life, know where you are going and why! It’s also important to work on your relationships. Your relationship with your significant other, when it’s good, can be the highlight of your life.  A difficult, stressful relationship, on the other hand, can actually be hazardous to your health. The book list below will help you grow as a person and also grow your relationships!

*All book descriptions are taken from – click the book titles which links to the corresponding Amazon page.


Personal Development

Get Off Your  Arse – Brad Burton

“Need more appointments? Need more sales? Need more motivation? Need no-nonsense advice? …You really need this book. It’s a fresh look at biz and networking.”


Unlimited Power – Anthony Robbins

“If you have ever dreamed of a better life, UNLIMITED POWER will show you how to achieve the extraordinary quality of life you desire and deserve. Anthony Robbins has proven to millions through his books, tapes and seminars that by harnessing the power of your mind you can do, have, achieve and create anything you want for your life. UNLIMITED POWER is a revolutionary fitness book for the mind. It will show you, step by step, how to perform at your peak while gaining emotional and financial freedom, attaining leadership and self-confidence and winning the co-operation of others. UNLIMITED POWER is a guidebook to superior performance in an age of success.”


Personal Power – Anthony Robbins (7 day Audio Course)

“The most successful personal achievement course of all time”


The Compound Effect – Darren Hardy (6 CD’S & BOOK)

“No gimmicks. No Hyperbole. No Magic Bullet. “The Compound Effect” is based on the principle that decisions shape your destiny. Little, everyday decisions will either take you to the life you desire or to disaster by default. Darren Hardy, publisher of “Success Magazine,” presents “The Compound Effect,” a distillation of the fundamental principles that have guided the most phenomenal achievements in business, relationships, and beyond. This easy-to-use, step-by-step operating system allows you to multiply your success, chart your progress, and achieve any desire. If you’re serious about living an extraordinary life, use the power of “The Compound Effect “to create the success you want.”



The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts – Gary Chapman

“Marriage should be based on love, right? But does it seem as though you and your spouse are speaking two different languages? New York Times best-selling author Dr. Gary Chapman guides couples in identifying, understanding, and speaking their spouse’s primary love language—quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch.

By learning the five love languages, you and your spouse will discover your unique love languages and learn practical steps in truly loving each other. Chapters are categorized by love language for easy reference, and each one ends with specific, simple steps to express a specific language to your spouse and guide your marriage in the right direction. A newly designed love languages assessment will help you understand and strengthen your relationship. You can build a lasting, loving marriage together.”


Dare To Connect: How to create confidence, trust and loving relationships – Susan Jeffers

We all want to be loved by our partners, and to have good relationships with friends and colleagues. What we don’t always know is how to make that special sense of connection happen. In DARE TO CONNECT, Susan gives us the insights and tools we need to create a sense of belonging everywhere we go. We learn that this is a world where there are no strangers and we never need to feel alone. DARE TO CONNECT is for everyone who has ever asked:

– Why do I feel so nervous when I walk into a room full of strangers?

– Why do I feel lonely, even though I’m surrounded by people?

– Why do I feel so alienated from my husband/wife/lover?


Love Smart: Find the One You Want – Fix the One You GotDr Phillips McGraw

“Addresses an important issue: finding the right person and then, making that relationship work for life.”


Internet Dating – Men to Avoid, Men to Enjoy: The breakthrough guide to pain-free dating for women – Buzz McCarthy

“Dating arenas have changed and women are either sacred of putting themselves on the internet or they are getting it all wrong. They don’t know how to date to get what they want. They get tangled up with all the wrong sorts of men and are disappointed and hurt time after time. This book will set them straight. World leading expert Dr Buzz McCarthy shows you how to relax again, enjoy meeting good sorts of men and choose how you can be in a real, lasting, loving and committed relationship.”


I hope you have found some useful books in the above list! Please share in the comments below books that have made an impact on your success!