If there’s one motto you should have this month it is JULY – “Just Unconditionally Love Yourself!”
If you’ve read my blog on daily incantations you will know that incantations are one of the most powerful tools to condition new beliefs and if you say something to yourself over and over again it changes a thought into a habit which then leads to an engrained self-belief. On this basis, why would you ever say anything negative about yourself?
Often we are quick to criticise ourselves for having said the wrong thing or having done something without thinking it through. We set high expectations or goals that we fall short of and then beat ourselves up about it. These self-judgemental barriers often prevent us from loving ourselves. Most of us look in the mirror every morning and what do we do? We point out our flaws, we go over past failings in our head and put ourselves down! Do you want this to be your first action every morning? WHY?
It’s time to change that! It’s time to start telling yourself that you did the best you could, that you gave it your best effort and that circumstances often have a major part in how were react. Forgive yourself. Give yourself benefit of doubt. Starting every day with feelings of guilt, shame or remorse is never going to lead to happiness. If you can’t show yourself compassion and forgiveness there will always be barriers in your way – barriers that you have put there yourself. How are you supposed to love yourself with a negative attitude and demoralising self-talk? Start to feel successful and experience wonderful things by snapping out of negative self-talk. If you do find that you can’t let go of the negative emotions talk to someone – a friend, a priest, a confidante.
By taking control of your own thoughts and allowing yourself to show compassion and love you are also showing others the way you want to be loved. Check out this article from Deepak Chopra on 7 ways to learn how to love yourself which explains how Like attracts Like, and the more you live your own ideal of love, the more your light will draw another light to you.
In order to make loving yourself easier you have to take action. Fill your day with happy thoughts about yourself and do things that show that you care for yourself! Choose your daily thoughts with consideration with even a simple act like smiling in the mirror and forgiving yourself for whatever went wrong the previous day. Start your morning with positive self-talk and create a wonderful relationship with yourself. You deserve love. Give yourself love and feel what it is like to be loved. Love yourself with no conditions attached.
Set yourself a JULY challenge – make a chart and write in what you will do each day to love yourself unconditionally. It may be that you choose to have a positive heart-warming song as your alarm ringtone, make a romantic breakfast for yourself or spend an extra 5 minutes pampering yourself in the morning. Don’t be afraid to love yourself and show it!
Just unconditionally love yourself!
“You’re amazing, just the way you are!” – Bruno Mars