Living a wonderful life

Why can’t I have a wonderful life? Of course, you can! It just depends on how you FEEL about your life and what you DO to HAVE a wonderful life!

That’s it! You don’t need to read any more; you’ve found the answer! However, just in case you have hit a little stumbling block and aren’t really sure, let me tell you a secret.

Taking action is part of the formulae of living a fulfilling life – BE – DO – HAVE

Grab a massive sheet of paper and a pack of coloured pens. If you have a spare roll of wallpaper, even better! You can make your sheet of paper at least 2 metres long! Now choose the brightest coloured pens and write down all those positive feelings you want to have and as you write them focus on the energy they provide. Make those words absolutely MAHOOSIVE!! We don’t want little, scrunched-up words that are hiding away in the bottom corner! If you haven’t been feeling these positive thoughts for a while they HAVE to jump out at you. Big & bold!!

Here are some that may grab your attention but it’s up to YOU. Write down as many words as you want: happy, confident, daring, strong, brave, interested, interesting, alive, kind, content, thrilled, wonderful, thankful, joyful, loving, loved, comfortable, secure, passionate, optimistic, enthusiastic, free, dynamic & thankful.

Don’t forget about the way in which you write those words. They have to be BIG & BOLD!

Go ahead! Create the wonderful life you want & deserve!

Go ahead! Create the wonderful life you want & deserve!

Many people find that once they start their list that they know many more. Why not fill the whole page? When finished, step back from your masterpiece and circle three words that are the most important to you – draw a picture, symbol or write a few words that says what you will do to make you feel that way.

Make a promise to yourself today! Lead your life the way that you want to. Sure, there may be influencing factors that take you in one direction or another but the next time you find yourself choosing what direction to take, firstly consider how you want to feel.

Let’s think through an example: Emily lives in a small flat with her two flatmates. She has completed her list and she draws some flowers next to the word “wonderful”. She doesn’t have a garden, one of her roommates has a severe pollen allergy and after failed attempts to grow watercress – the first batch went yellow & the second only grew by about 3 cm – she has given up gardening for good. However Emily connects flowers with feeling wonderful- the bright colours & lovely smells. So what can Emily do?

It’s often quite easy to come up with solutions for others or to help someone out so take a step back and imagine you are giving advice to someone else. Take your three words and write down a few words or draw an image connected to what you will do.

Lastly, fold up your paper and write down today’s date on it AND what date it will be in a month’s time.

Go back to your list in a month’s time and let me know how you’ve got on. Have you put the wheels in motion to carry out your promise?


Why bother with love?

Why bother with love?

February is the month of “love”. We are constantly told this in the lead up to Valentine’s Day and reminded of it on the radio, TV adverts, signs on shop windows, twitter feeds. It’s everywhere you look on February 14th – Cupid cardboard cut-outs, flowers, hearts, couples in restaurants, people hugging, red balloons, heart-shaped chocolates! It even pops up on the Google search engine.

Image coutesy of Google

Image courtesy of Google, 2014.

You can’t really ignore it unless you happen to hide away for the first fortnight in February.

However when Valentine’s Day is over for another year we shouldn’t just shut our eyes or our hearts to love. Love doesn’t just happen in February! Love is for every day, every moment.

I have mentioned before in my blog about 10 actions you need to do for yourself and particularly about the importance of loving yourself. I still believe it to be true that it IS possible to take care of your own needs while also caring for those around you at the same time. In fact once your needs are met you will be far more capable of helping those who need you most!

It is really important that you love yourself first. Why should you be first?  Do you really expect others to believe that you love them when you do not love yourself? You cannot be egotistical when it comes to love. You are not so different or special that you can show love to others but not to yourself. So put aside any thoughts you have about where love comes from or what you are looking for in love and stop overlooking the one person who needs love the most!

Love doesn’t happen by accident.

It is deliberate.

It is intentional.

It is purposeful.

There are two things that I want you to do right NOW!

1. Write down 3 things that you love about yourself! Place this piece of paper in a place where you will look at it EVERY day until the end of February.

2. Express your love! Write down the names of 3 people you love – call them today or tell them in person (Don’t text! It doesn’t count!)


Love yourself and be completely at ease about loving yourself!

1 Corinthians 16:14

1 Corinthians 16:14

“I have a dream” – What is your dream?

It’s been an historic week for our American friends; the 50th anniversary of Martin Luther King’s ‘I Have a Dream’ speech and the historic march on Washington, we saw US President Barack Obama, the first american black president, deliver a speech nearly to the minute 50 years on. Martin Luther King’s speech marked the peak of a series of protests against racial discrimination that began with Rosa Parks when she refused to give up her bus seat for a white passenger in 1955. Amazing how one woman’s brave action sparked the greatest movement in American civil rights!

What are your dreams?

Are you living each day in pursuit of your dreams? We have seen how one woman’s stand against injustice sparked the dreams of many, what can we learn from Rosa Parks? How can we inspire others to pursue their dreams?

Tony Robbins: “I have a dream that…”

Sir. Richard Branson: “I have a dream that…”

Chrissy Teigen: “I have a dream that…”

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Use this week to inspire your dreams, what are your dreams, passions, and life goals? Don’t let people stop you in the pursuit of your dreams! I’ll leave the last word with the great, late Steve Jobs:

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.  Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.  Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice, heart and intuition.  They somehow already know what you truly want to become.  Everything else is secondary.”

Why Books are important to read

I am a self-confessed book-a-holic, I love to read, I listen to audio books in the car while traveling; in fact my car is a driving university! I read biographies, motivational books, self-help books, how-to books, anything that I think can help me.Bookworm

Reading is a great way for anyone to better themselves.  In this digital information age we have become very good at scanning web pages and documents and picking out the bits we think we need to understand. But how much of this can we really take in? Video /  Television are great learning tools but they paint the picture for us, they don’t allow us to use our imagination. Books exercise the creative part of our brains!

By reading books and exposing yourself to different writers you will increase your vocabulary, you will become exposed to new words that you would not come into contact with. “When reading, even when we may not understand every new word, we absorb something from the context that may deepen our understanding of it the next time the word is encountered.”

Reading fiction books increase the creativity in the brain, especially at a young age. This is beneficial because creative people are able to solve business problems, write books and music, and create scientific advances that can aid humanity.

Reading helps to increase your attention span and improves your memory, it helps keep the brain active. Brains are like muscle, use it or lose it!

Your life will be better if you just spend an hour a day reading a book. Turn off your computer, turn off your phone. Disconnect yourself.

Visit my book list for 2013

What book have you read that has Inspired you or given you some form of idea to transform something of your life???

Life is a journey unique to you!

What journey do you wish to live for your life?

Life is a journey, yours is unique to you. No matter who we are or where we are from, we all have our own unique journey. Your journey will be one of challenges and learning. Learn from everything that happens, pay attention, and let it add to the path you take. You are in control as to whether you succeed. The gift of life is having the power to control the decisions you make in deciding upon that unique journey.Life is a journey, man walking his own path!

You are the one who is the single biggest influence in your journey!

If you couldn’t fail, what would be your journey? Now make it so that you don’t fail!

Desire creates the dreams that lead to your destiny. No dream is ever too big, your journey needs to be thought through with how you want your life to be and who you are going to be. The journey begins by determining what it is you most desire and every journey needs a plan right? You need to focus on every aspect of you – physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. Learn how to overcome obstacles, get rid of any limiting beliefs and emotions. Be prepared to jump over any hurdles that may come your way, if you see them coming, leap over them early. If they spring up, know that you have everything you need to knock it down!

Life can give you everything you desire and so much more. Focus upon what you need to do to make your journey one that you dream of! Make it exciting, challenging and adventurous, but most of all make it yours!