Win or Loose – You choose! Boxing a great metaphor for life!

Billy Schwer spent 20 years at the top of his field in arguably the most gruelling and demanding sport there is – Boxing.  During his professional career he won British, Commonwealth, European and IBO World Boxing Titles. I had the pleasure in listening to a motivational presentation last night by Billy, he said the game of boxing is 80% mental and 20% physical, doesn’t that apply to life?

Life is about choices, you can choose how you react to events, it’s a conscious choice! Here are some areas that you can focus on for the choices in your life:

  • You can choose where to be.
  • You can choose how to act.
  • You can choose who to trust.
  • You can choose who to avoid.
  •  You can choose what to say and what to do.
  • You can choose what to believe and choose what to say about yourself.
  • You can choose what to say about others.
  • You can choose what behaviour to have day-to-day

 

I have included below an extract from Billy’s blog on how to survive and thrive :  http://www.billyschwer.com/blog.php?blog_id=25

For those who are new to this – this is the first of my Seven Principles, of how to Survive and Thrive, especially in today’s tough times, What does that mean to you?  How can you choose to win when things don’t go your way?

When I was five years old my two older sisters Mandy and Lisa (11 and 8) used to torment me, slap me around and overpower me. They would sit on me and pin me down to the floor.

I used to get so upset, I would kick and scream trying to break free that I would hyperventilate and turn blue, I thought I was going to die.  It was in that moment, I decided nobody was going to beat me, dominate me, hurt me or get on top of me – ever again; especially women.  It was in that same moment I made an unconscious decision about myself; I’m weak, I can’t fight my sisters off so I must be weak – right?

So I then decided to become really tough to cover up and survive being weak, that is why I became a boxer, a fighter – someone everyone would see as strong and powerful.

Many people don’t think about the choices they make every day of their lives.  They suffer a setback and they let it affect the rest of their day – sometimes the rest of their life.  They don’t know that they have made an unconscious choice.

You always have a choice about the actions you take or indeed don’t take, the thoughts that affect you.  So your partner had the hump this morning – do you spend the day resenting the way they treated you or decide that they deserve a treat to cheer them up?  It’s a choice.

Every one of us makes choices throughout the day – you are the designer of your day; you create the day by consciously taking responsibility for your thoughts and actions – and results.  Life by design, live a life that you have created.

If you let yourself create negative images of yourself, you’ll end up being who you think you are.  Can you interrupt those thought patterns?  Every entrepreneur has a belief in themselves and their abilities – and every person has the ability to believe in themselves – just choose.

Catch yourself at each moment when negative thoughts creep in and decide to succeed – no matter what.

Billy Schwer

Performance expert

Specialist in Mental – Physical – Nutritional Fitness 

 

 

Are you ready to make life your sparring partner?

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Create an Outstanding Mental Blueprint

I am excited to be launching a six part webinar series “Creating an outstanding mental Blueprint”. This is the first time I have run a series of webinars so it will be great to connect with so many more people where location is no barrier!!

Here is the description of the event:

Dr Susie Mitchell is a Psycho-Neurologist, Professional Coach and Master Practitioner in NLP, Hypnotherapy and Time Line Therapy. Susie is the author of Satnav for the Souland The S word, writes for newspapers and magazines, has appeared on TV and Radio and is a motivational and a keynote speaker. Susie has built two successful businesses and loves working with people.

For us to truly excel at many areas of our lives, we need to make dramatic internal shifts, to fulfil our dreams and ambitions. Susie gets outstanding results with her Corporate Coaching and Personal Development clients from all types of backgrounds.

Susie now brings to you a six part webinar series that will give you the best ‘mental blueprint ‘to overcome life’s challenges and create the life that you desire. Through this series you will be guided through processes and techniques to enable your mind-set to the freedom to thrive.

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This weekly webinar series will be delivered to you over six weeks every Monday at 8pm beginning February 3rd.  You will be emailed an exclusive link 24 hours before each webinar.  All webinars in the series will be recorded and made available to you.  After each session you will have the opportunity to submit questions that will be followed up the following week allowing you to get the most value from this series. If you need more information, please do get in touch through Eventbrite or my Facebook page!

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In the words of the great Jim Rohn “Work harder on yourself than you do on your job”. I will let him explain!

How do great leaders inspire us?

We recently said goodbye to one of the 20th century’s great leaders, Nelson Mandala passed away on the 5th December, 2013.  His passing marks the end of an era, South Africans will remember him as the father of the nation, who brought an end to apartheid and delivered the nation from the brink of civil war. He won admiration around the world when he preached reconciliation after being freed from almost three decades of imprisonment. He leaves behind an extraordinary legacy of reconciliation and forgiveness which has inspired so many people and will continue to do so.

How do leaders inspire us?

When looking at developing your leadership skills we can learn so much from great leaders. This Mandala quote sums up how I choose to truly live my life:

nelson mandala

 

Which great leaders have inspired you and what are their qualities? Great leaders have the ability to inspire people to greatness, to help them achieve the impossible. Leaders have passion and vision and are able to communicate that passion and vision so others can feel passionate, too. It’s important to inspire others with words and actions, teach others by example. If you do it, they will follow.

Mandala was put in jail by a brutal regime for 27 years simply because he was fighting for fairness and equality. On his release instead of looking for revenge he became a stronger leader, never becoming bitter. He found common ground, embracing those who were once against him and helping the country bridge a seemingly impossible gap.

If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner.

Find willing people to work with. Most of us have gotten caught up at least once in the emotional roller-coaster that is wanting to work with or help someone who has the talent, the potential or the need, even if that person is unwilling or incapable. Move on from those that don’t want to do or be where you want them to do or be. And don’t carry their burden. Let them go through their journey and spend your time and energy looking for like-minded people who you can partner with.

It is better to lead from behind and to put others in front, especially when you celebrate victory when nice things occur. You take the front line when there is danger. Then people will appreciate your leadership.

The truth about absenteeism at work

It’s a well-known fact that absenteeism affects businesses bottom lines. As an employer you can expect that employees will miss some workdays throughout the year for very genuine reasons,  absenteeism is a chronic problem where an employee continually misses work for inappropriate reasons. Absenteeism can also affect teams in business, can you spot the difference between normal levels of absence from chronic levels which could indicate a bigger problem?

Common reasons for absenteeism:

  • Bullying and harassment
  • Burnout, stress and low morale
  • Childcare and elder care
  • Depression – This is the leading cause of absenteeism in the USA.
  • Disengagement
  • Illness and injury – offered cited as the reason for absence but not always the case!
  • Partial shifts – Often overlooked: Arriving late, leaving early and taking longer breaks than allowed are considered forms of absenteeism and can affect productivity and workplace morale.

The true cost of absenteeism in the workplace

According to an article in Sky News figures released by PricewaterhouseCoopers “show that Brits bunk off nearly twice as much as workers in the US.”

The average worker has 10 unscheduled days off work per year and absenteeism costs the UK a staggering £32bn each year….The UK number is also twice as high compared to Asia-Pacific, where workers take 4.5 days off.

The article goes on to say:

PwC’s analysis suggests that more flexible labour laws in the US and Asia could be a reason for workers being more committed there.

Richard Phelps, HR consulting partner at PwC, said: “For a variety of reasons, there seems to be a hunger among workers in US and Asia to go the extra mile.”

“With sickness accounting for the lion’s share of absence, the question for employers is what can be done to improve health, morale and motivation.”

We clearly have a huge problem in the UK and it is costing UK businesses money, what can you do as an employer to improve the health, morale and motivation of your workforce?

Employers really need to be proactive in the modern workplace. Businesses that employ wellness strategies which take into account employee health concerns such as, Physical health, Psychological health, Work-home balance, Environmental health and Economic health have a net positive effect on a company’s bottom line – and that’s good for business.corporate wellness

Healthier, happier employees will be more able and motivated to go to work each day, resulting in increased productivity and higher moral for the individual workers as well as the entire team.

When wellness and health are actively promoted an employee is 2.5 times more likely to see you as a best performer with their levels of engagement to increase by eight times. (Source World Economic Forum)

This is a problem you can’t continue to ignore!  Visit my new website http://www.transform-my-life.com/corporate-wellness/ for more information. Please download my “Top 10 Tips on Transformation” at the website!

 

 

 

Can stress be good for you? How you can make it your friend.

I watched a fascinating talk by health psychologist Kelly McGonigal; she shares a fascinating idea: that the harmful effects of stress may be a consequence of our perception that it is bad for our health. Agreeing with my earlier article on stress that “That’s not to say a challenge is a bad thing, we need to progress and grow, we do this by dealing with stressful situations and coming out the other side. However, what may be stressful to one person may minimally affect another–and vice versa. The reason: it is not the event which is stressful, but how we view and respond to the event that counts. “

Kelly McGonigal presents scientific research in her presentation that proves an up side to stress:

“Can changing how you think about stress make you healthier? Here the science says yes,” says McGonigal. “Your heart might be pounding, you may be breathing faster… but what if you viewed them as signs that your body was energized and it’s preparing you to meet this challenge.”

The main points from the scientific research mentioned in the video are:

  • Stress may actually be correlated with longevity—if a person does not view it as a negative
  • A possible antidote to negative effects of stress: giving to others
  • Moderate stress can lead to cell growth in the brain’s learning centers
  • Stress can summon helper hormones to vulnerable areas
  • Stress can induce both good and bad habits
  • A stress-is-enhancing mindset may have lasting effects

How to deal with stress in a positive way

1. Nothing and no one can “make” you feel anything. You are responsible for the reaction you have to any given situation, of you can’t change anything, accept it for what it is. Accepting doesn’t mean to give up, by accepting what can’t be changed and finding a way to cop with it is a great stress reducer.

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

2. Exchange attitude for gratitude. The science indicates above that as possible antidote to stress is giving to others, that makes us feel good about ourselves. Sometimes you can find gratitude in the smallest things. You can be thankful for life, health, strength, friends, family, nature, etc. Focusing on gratitude can definitely change your attitude.

3. Look at the big picture. Evaluate your stressful situation from a “big picture” point of view. Ask yourself “how important is this?” and “will this matter in the long run?” If the answer is no, it’s likely not worth your time and energy.