Are you always ‘too tired’ when you get home from work?

Do you jump out of bed in a morning raring to go or can’t you wait until the time when you can crawl back in? Do you return from a busy day at work and collapse on the sofa with tiredness? You’re certainly not alone if you do, tiredness is the number one complaint that we visit our doctor with. It’s easy to blame our busy lifestyles with work commitments, family, household chores, travel etc But tiredness or fatigue is not always due to burning the candle at both ends.

The Royal College of Psychiatrists suggests that, at any given time, one in five people feel unusually tired and one in 10 have prolonged fatigue. Women tend to feel tired more than men.

Why is it that some people have bags of energy and pack so much into a day? Assuming there are no underlying medical conditions (check with your doctor) and your basic needs are met, like getting enough quality sleep, drinking enough water, getting enough exercise and the correct nutrition. It might surprise you to learn that 70 percent of our total energy is emotional—the kind that manifests as hope, resilience, passion, fun, and enthusiasm.

Highly energetic people learn to replace their emotional energy:

Learn to recognize what drains your energy—life situations, toxic people, or habits of mind like worry, guilt, indecision, and envy—and take steps to avoid or minimize it. Second, you identify what fills your tank—pleasure, prayer, novelty, anticipation, fun—and give yourself more.

Unlike physical energy which can deplete as we age, we can learn to increase our emotional energy year on year; it’s a never-ending renewable energy source!! Finding out what works for you is the key, recognize what drains your energy and take steps to change. Common energy drains could be:

1. Living up to someone’s else expectations

2. Loss of identity, not knowing who you are and what direction you’re taking in life.

3. Envy – Comparing yourself to others is a total waste of time! Look at what you have and be grateful! Showing gratitude everyday is a great energy booster!

4. Worry – torments and exhausts us. Taking action is a cure for worrying!

5. Unfinished projects / tasks. Either plan to complete the tasks or dump them! If you can’t find the time to do them either outsource or forget them!



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Read more:

Solving the Emotional Energy Crisis

Looking after number 1! Are you selfish enough?

Using Emotional intelligence to progress towards your goals Part 2


How to stay motivated at work.

The only person that can really motivate you, is you! But if you implement the following tips you will be more positive and have more energy to deal with your workday!

1. Start each day with a positive inputmotivation

Spend at least 15 minutes at the start of the day with positive input, this could be quotes you read, motivational books or CD’s. The commute to work is a great time to listen to motivational material, audiobooks are a great resource! If you have a “library” of positive thoughts in your head, so you can draw upon them if the day doesn’t go exactly as you’d prefer.

2. Tie your work to your life’s goals.

Always remember that there’s a deeper reason why you go to work and why you chose your current role. Maybe it’s to support your family, to change the world in some way, to help your customers, to make a difference: Whatever the deeper motivation, remind yourself that this workday–today–is the opportunity to accomplish part of that deeper and more important goal.

3. Keep track of what you have completed.

Making a to-do list and crossing out each task of as completed is a great way to stay motivated at work. Often when we are busy and getting tired we lose track of everything we have actually accomplished.

4. Express a positive mood

To many of us bring ourselves down to match other people, when asked how we are doing we often say ‘I’m ok’ or ‘hanging in there’, that sort of self talk sets you up for failure! Say ‘I’m wonderful’ or ‘feeling fantastic’, be positive it can only improve your mood!

5. Take regular breaks

Try and build into your schedule regular breaks throughout the day, After some time knocking away at the computer or whatever else you do at work, you can get tired or feel monotonous. That’s when you need to take that small 10 minutes break. Have a break from the computer and get a drink of water, stretch your legs and refresh it will make you more productive.

6. Do what’s important first.

Everybody complains about having too much to do, but few people do anything about it.  “20% of your activities are going to produce 80% of your results”  so do that 20% first, before you get to the 80% of your activities that is mostly wasted time. You’ll get more done, and you’ll get better results.

7. End your day with gratitude !

Exercising your “gratitude muscle” is the best way to make certain that you experience more success. Before you go to sleep, get out a tablet (paper or electric), and record everything that happened during the day about which you are (or could be) grateful.

You’ll sleep better and be ready for tomorrow–which will probably be even more fabulous than today.


None of these tips take a lot of time, just a little bit of effort to change your daily routine will have a big reward!

Use the September equinox to give thanks and revitalise!

We have just passed the September Equinox (22nd of September 2013), has it had any effect on you? It could be the perfect time for asky cathartic clear out! It many different cultures around the world there are many festivals and celebrations around the Autumn (September) equinox. In the UK traditional harvest festivals take place around the end of September; it is a time to give thanks for the crops that have been grown and also to celebrate the end of the hard work involved in reaping them!

So as we approach the last 3 months of the year, take some time this week to review the year so far, give thanks for the blessings you have received, review what you still want to achieve, list them jobs you want to get finished and review the goals I know you all set in January!

Great questions to ask yourself if you want to get the best from your life!

Q. What is making my life a masterpiece?

Q. What do I need to ‘let go of’ that does not serve me?

Q. What decision could you make right now to move you closer to your goal?

Q. Am I willing to accept the consequences of not changing?

Q. Who am I working with to help me get to where I want to be in my life?

Q. What are you grateful for in your life right now?

Q. Have I made certain that those I love feel loved?

Q. Have I collected some wonderful memories?

Q. Have I felt grateful for the incredible gift of being alive?

Q.What am I enjoying most in my life right now?

Q. What am I committed to in my life right now?



The questions you ask yourself on a daily basis determine your focus, and your focus determines your results!

  • See your goal
  • Understand the obstacles
  • Create a positive mental picture
  • Clear your mind of self-doubt
  • Embrace the challenge
  • Stay on track
  • Show the world you can do it


Instead of making a living, start creating a life.

Brilliant Results don’t just show up by chance. The finest things in life take patience, focus and sacrifice” – Robin Sharma





“I have a dream” – What is your dream?

It’s been an historic week for our American friends; the 50th anniversary of Martin Luther King’s ‘I Have a Dream’ speech and the historic march on Washington, we saw US President Barack Obama, the first american black president, deliver a speech nearly to the minute 50 years on. Martin Luther King’s speech marked the peak of a series of protests against racial discrimination that began with Rosa Parks when she refused to give up her bus seat for a white passenger in 1955. Amazing how one woman’s brave action sparked the greatest movement in American civil rights!

What are your dreams?

Are you living each day in pursuit of your dreams? We have seen how one woman’s stand against injustice sparked the dreams of many, what can we learn from Rosa Parks? How can we inspire others to pursue their dreams?

Tony Robbins: “I have a dream that…”

Sir. Richard Branson: “I have a dream that…”

Chrissy Teigen: “I have a dream that…”

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Use this week to inspire your dreams, what are your dreams, passions, and life goals? Don’t let people stop you in the pursuit of your dreams! I’ll leave the last word with the great, late Steve Jobs:

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.  Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.  Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice, heart and intuition.  They somehow already know what you truly want to become.  Everything else is secondary.”

Ways to live your best life!

Following on from last weeks blog post “How to feel confident all the time” I wanted to take a look at someone who is the definition of oporahconfident, Oprah Winfrey. The success Oprah enjoys today has come from many years of hard work, dedication and overcoming adversity. According to wikipedia “Winfrey was born into poverty in rural Mississippi to a teenage single mother and later raised in an inner-city Milwaukee neighborhood. She experienced considerable hardship during her childhood, saying she was raped at age nine and became pregnant at 14; her son died in infancy”. After overcoming these very painful personally challenges Oprah is now “ranked the richest African-American of the 20th century, the greatest black philanthropist in American history, and was for a time the world’s only black billionaire. She is also, according to some assessments, the most influential woman in the world.”

Who better to inspire us to live our best life, here are Oprah’s top tips:

  • What you put out comes back all the time, no matter what.
  • You define your own life. Don’t let other people write your script.
  • Whatever someone did to you in the past, has no power over the present. Only you give it power.
  • What you believe has more power that what you dream or wish or hope for. You become what you believe.
  • Worrying is wasted time. Use the same energy for doing something about whatever worries you.
  • If the only prayer you say is thank you that will be enough.
  • The happiness you feel is in direct proportion to the love you give.
  • Trust your instincts. Intuition does not lie.
  • Let passion drive your profession.
  • Love doesn’t hurt. It feels really good.
  • Every day brings a chance to start over.
  • When you don’t know what to do. Get still. The answer will come.
  • Failure is a signpost to turn you in another direction.


If you are worried about a situation, ask yourself:

What’s the worst thing that can happen?

Is it really so bad?  It usually isn’t.

Seek out people who make you feel good, relaxed and resourceful.

Read a book that is inspiring.

Refuse to read bad news during a negative period.

Write a list of all the things which are good in your life, then compare it with the ‘problem’. See how insignificant the problem seems.

Watch a film that helps you get in a positive state.

If you have kids, play games with them.

If you don’t have kids, pretend your one!

Go somewhere, which inspires you.


Ask someone for a hug.

Read a funny story before you go to bed.