Looking after number 1! Are you selfish enough?



(of a person, action, or motive) Lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.
egoistic – self-seeking – self-centered – self-centred



The word ‘selfish’ can cause a negative reaction in most people; I am sure we have all grown up with parents telling us to ‘stop being selfish’. The above definition of the word selfish is in the whole negative so why am I asking the question ‘are you selfish enough’? Think about today’s most successful people, for example Richard BransonElon MuskMichael BloombergMaria Shriver and Joel Osteen. A common trait they all share is selfishness, they put their goals and objectives first, they look after their health. They know that you cannot achieve greatness if you are tired, uninspired, angry or wound up.

Read ‘Be more selfish’ –  a great blog post by Darren Hardy from Success magazine, he gives you 5 ways to become more selfish!

Are you selfish enough to succeed?

I’m extraordinarily patient provided I get my own way in the end. – Margaret Thatcher


When we truly care for ourselves, it becomes possible to care far more profoundly about other people. -Eda LeShan


The man who does not value himself, cannot value anything or anyone. -Ayn Rand


Selfish means that you care enough about yourself to get your needs met; selfishness is a choice. Being selfish does not mean you will suddenly become irresponsible, abandon your spouse, children and friends. It simply means you recognize that you have to put yourself first to succeed. You will ‘get’ the notion that “If it’s good for me, it’s probably going to benefit others as well.” Most people try to be generous before being selfish enough to succeed, the problem with this is it’s not sustainable. As you become more successful (by being selfish) you will become more generous as you have the resources to help more people!  Taking care of one’s self enhances everything else we do.

Time is the most important asset we have, successful people know how to manage their time. We can not afford to let ourselves become tired and unmotivated because we are constantly being pulled in different directions by others. Put yourself on your own agenda!!

“In Mandarin Chinese, they have two words for selfish.  One means doing that which is beneficial to you and the other means hoarding, greedy, and cruel.  We, in English have pushed those two words together.”